What did you learn last year?

Life is always evolving and growing & I like to think I have my part in that. After some careful thought and consideration, I've come to a list of things I've learned over the last year.

I've learned that love and hate are the two most contagious diseases, and can have the most disgusting side affects.
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I've learned that I can't hold my liquor like I used to. Nor do I care to try to.
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I've learned that love and hate are the two most misunderstood and overused words.
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I've learned that those who claim to be independent the most, are usually the most dependent. Their only independence is from reality; therefore, they never see how dependent they truly are.
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I've learned that doing the right thing morally in a situation often leaves you open to other peoples narrative of that situation. Which can leave you unbelievably vulnerable.
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I've learned that I am more attractive than what I give myself credit for.
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I've learned that I need to bite my tongue more than I used to.
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I've learned that children are the best at judging peoples goodness. They can't help but do it. They haven't put that wall of confusion up yet.
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I've learned that no matter how many times you have heard a song, that you never really listened until it hits you in that certain mood.
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I've learned that love isn't that cliche line of 'something that comes back to you when you let it go if it's meant to be', but that love is something that would break you if you had to let go.
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I've learned that anger is an exercise in futility.
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I've learned that people who give dirty looks have dirty souls.
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I've learned that as eclectic as my taste in music is, there is still so much more out there that I know I will love.
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I've learned that, if in tune, you're intuition is somewhere around 95% correct. And the other 5% are just bad guesses usually formed while either in a tired, drunken, or paranoid state of mind.
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I've learned that your kids are going to grow up to be just like you, so stop being a prick.
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I've learned that the only competition that matters is with yourself and old ways of thinking/living/acting. Jealousy is not the platform in which to form goals upon.
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I've learned that I had no idea how prevalent police abuse is.
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I've learned that the morals of some people are incredibly low. So low, that it scares me to know that people like that aren't the bad guys in movies, but are your grandma's nurse, your kid's teacher, your favorite cable news host, or the police that are supposed to protect you.
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I've learned that dancing can be amazingly therapeutic.
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I've learned that the more mercy you beg for, the less you get. In fact, those who hold the mercy you crave are in that position for a reason, and it's usually low or zero morals that give them this power. That they even clutch to the mercy you and they both know is right is so incredibly disgusting, it scares me.
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I've learned that being honest with a significant other, or even someone you just dated a couple times goes a lot further than making up fights to move on quicker.
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I've learned that the quietest people are usually the ones who have the most moral baggage.
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I've learned that it's incredibly unfair to use 'life isn't fair' as justification for being a dick to someone. After all, the ONLY reason that 'life isn't fair' is because of dicks like that.
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I've learned that forgiveness is DIVINE, and blame is DEVILISH.
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I've learned that selfishness can run really, really, really, incredibly, amazingly , and unjustifiably deep.
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I've learned that hell truly hath no fury like a woman scorned.
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I've learned that when someone really wants just 1 person to know their qualities, that they usually possess them, and would go to any means to get it across. And those who trumpet it to everyone usually don't.
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I've learned that liars cheat, and cheaters lie. And neither have a spot on my list of friends.
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I've learned that the way people choose to act towards you is their problem, not yours. It's their morals that cause their useless and mindless disdain, not yours.
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I've learned that God speaks to us as individuals, not as a mass.
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I've leaned that those who claim to hate drama the most, usually are mired in it most often, and usually seek no way out.
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And finally, I've learned that your friends show their truest colors in your times of despair, not theirs. After all, despair is the bottom. And what you do while you are down there doesn't count against you. And what you have to do to climb up is what you have to do. It's what those who are at the top put themselves through to get a rope or ladder down to you that is the real litmus test.

What have you all learned this past year?

Things That Piss Me Off =]

This list might get really outrageous but know for certain that I'm not the only one =]

• Liars. No lie is okay even if you are lying to yourself.
• Cheaters.
  
• People who do not discipline their kids. I don't care if you spank or not... just do something.
• People who bitch about their kids & still don't discipline. Glutton for punishment? I think so.
• People who do not support the military. You don't have to support the war but you do have to support those who are doing what you won't.
  
• Laundry. If you have kids you know this is never ending.
• Seeing people who didn't talk to you in High School & now they want to know you.
  
• Ring, tag, camo or whatever else chasers.
  
• People who trash talk their spouses.
• Parents who don't interact with their kids because "they need a break".
• Shit talkers. If I hear you talking out of your ass I'll tell you to grow up in a heartbeat. I don't want to hear your apparent jealousy.
• People who won't admit we all judge people. Some just more harshly than others.
• One-uppers or those who always take your situation and make it theirs so you can have "common ground". This happened to me last week.
• Those who want pity-parties ALL OF THE TIME.
• Those who have to have a certain status symbol.
• Military wives who wear their husbands rank. Last time I checked, I didn't go to basic or to War! Or, military wives who ask your husbands rank before they ask your name.
• People who are unwilling to learn the native language of where they live. I wouldn't go to another country and expect to be catered to. No one asked me to go there.
• Fake people.
• People who don't stand up for themselves & then want to bitch endlessly about it.
• Hypochondriacs. Not the clinically diagnosed but the other kind.
• People who don't or never vote & then still bitch as if they did. Let's get it straight. If you didn't vote, you didn't use your voice so STFU.
• Those who drive slow in the fast lane or cut me off and slow down.
• Obama.
• Those who abuse prescriptions & then have the audacity to ask for yours. I've stopped talking to numerous people because of this.
• People who bitch & moan about their lives and NEVER do anything to change it.
• That parents will always parent you even in your 30's.
• People who were never allowed to fall & pick themselves back up again.
• Those who abuse government assistance be it unemployment or food stamps etc.
  
• People who blame McDonald's for making their kids heavy.
• Making fun of fat people .
  
• Making fun of the disabled.
• Finding a milk cup 3 days later.
• People who talk through movies.
• People who have no filter and wonder why they have no friends.
• Insensitivity.
• Adam Sandler movies that make me cry.
• People who talk about their perfect lives all the time. In fact, so much that you know they are full of shit.
• Those who update their status on FB for every minute thing that enters their minds.
• People who think & talk about how their child is so advanced etc yet you never ever see it. Grasp this: Every child develops at a different rate. Saying they are doing things they are not is setting them up for failure & your disappointment.
• When best friends lose touch because it becomes one sided.
• People who never accept the fact that their kid truly is an asshole & it isn't my kid.
• Those who assume that SAHM's do nothing all day or we are lazy or that is all we have going for us. It doesn't define me. My little princess definitely dominates my world but there are more things about me.
• Negative Nancy's. It's one thing to be pessimistic at certain times or events but all the time is freaking annoying.
• When my husband rearranges shit in my kitchen. You don't cook, love, so please stay the fuck out of there.
  
• When people don't seek help for issues.
  
• That instead of having a real, true mailbox we have banks of them at the end of our street which won't hold more than 3 letters at a time.
  
• Military housing lists. Average wait time 131 days my ass. I've been on that bitch since December. Count 'em up!
• Those who can't leave work at home.
• People who don't follow thru with anything.
• When my husband finds a new expensive hobby before thinking about other things we need first.

I'm sure I may add to this more in the future but for now it seems to be a ton. I'm thinking that in some instances or situations people may think of me as bitchy, and that's okay, just don't think that you are an exception to the rules. I do not tolerate assholes & my tolerance for bullshit is at an all time low.

I actually feel empowered now that I stand up for the shit that bugs me. I don't always say something but when I know it will still piss me off days later, it is in my best interest to lay it out there. I take all responsibility for my actions and only wish that others would do the same.

Is that too much to ask?